Choose To Lead Responsively
How often do you direct your attention to someone else’s behavior you can’t control? You fret, ruminate, blame, and sit in a negative feedback loop while nothing changes. It feels like there isn’t a choice, and yet it happens more often than you’d like to admit.
Despite feeling stuck with no way out, the truth is you do have a choice. You are offered free will every day; you just have to change your perspective and direct your attention toward your own behavior.
It's not an easy choice to make, typically because the alternative to your current stuckness is almost always harder and wrapped in a blanket of fear. When that happens, your ego mind does a damn good job working to convince you that if you choose yourself, failure and despair are inevitable, leaving a wake of destruction. Staying comfortable is easier, even if you don’t really want that comfort. Even if that comfort doesn’t serve you any longer. You project yourself into other people’s business to avoid looking inward. Consequently, your brain will find a way to imprison you and make you feel like you are left without a choice.
I spent many years of my life this way, with an undercurrent of pain and hurt from traumas, poor choices, and regrets that made me feel like this was the best it was going to be. Then, as if a light was turned on, I received intuitive wisdom that I did, in fact, have a choice. That led me down a road of forgiveness that allowed me to choose how to respond to my life. I have set the boundary to stay in my business.
I won’t tell you that all choices are easy, but at the end of the day, behind your greatest fear is almost always your greatest truth. To me, that’s worth going through any challenge because it is your right to show up every day and choose. You have a choice. You have a choice to respond or react. You have a choice in where to direct your attention: On what is within your control or on what isn’t.
Choose wisely.
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