5 Mindful Tips
The last week my thoughts have been filled with doom and gloom.
The wildfires in LA County.
Nola - my soon-to-be bonus kid - went in for her regular scan for rare cancer, knowing that in the last two years, she has had surgery to remove tumors.
Round two of Trump leadership
There is a game of ping-pong going on in my head between negative thoughts and gratitude. Currently, the critic is winning, and I’m tired.
What does a chaotic mindset look like for you?
I get quiet, spending more time ruminating than engaging with others. I drink too much coffee because anxious thoughts disrupt my sleep. I snap at people for no reason, like the trainer at the gym, when I didn’t understand something he was explaining. I see only what is wrong with a situation.
I know I’m not alone. The Substack feed I usually go to for positive living and inspiration is filled with authors feeling the same and lamenting about it.
This mindset is not only toxic; it happens to be highly contagious, and I’ve caught it!
Everything feels big and out of my control. Out of our control, which overwhelms my senses. I find myself shrinking as it grows, rendering me useless. I am simply going through the motions but not actually living.
But I’ve been here before, and if there is anything I know about myself, it is this…I am a fighter. The more practice I put into breaking the cycle, the more progress I make. There was a way into this mindset, and there is a way out. Grab your compass.
I’ve been practicing five antidotes to negativity that help me step out of lack and into a mindset of gratitude.
Meditation
The mindful practice of sitting in stillness reminds me how to stay present, stay aware of my breath and my nervous system, and allow me to love what is. Start with three minutes and notice the difference.Exercise
My emotions have been big. I can’t think my way out of them (none of us can). I have to process them physically. So when I reach a point of emotionally breaking, I go for a walk, get on the bike, or take a fitness class. I always end up feeling more regulated.Intuitive cards
We have wisdom in each of us, and the answer we need in a moment is a question away. I ask for guidance each morning on what I need to focus on to be the highest version of myself, and I’m given a tangible answer through the card deck. More times than not, the information validates what I already know, reinforcing my practice. Here is a link to my favorite deck.Laughing
The funniest person I know is my partner. She can always make laugh. If I’m particularly low, I seek her out for some laughs. Laughter is one of the highest forms of love. When you laugh, your stress response resets and calm finds you.Horses
Sometimes I don’t even know I’m in a particular head space until I spend some time with a horse. They are reflective mirrors of what is happening on the inside. I become present, regulate my heart, and step into love.
These practices don’t take away or change the current state of affairs, and my feelings on each matter will still be big, but what they do offer is choice. A choice to respond and how to show up differently. Hope is also contagious.
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